Preventing Parental Alienation: Part II
Parental alienation is when one parent attempts to sabotage or undermine their child’s relationship with the child’s other parent. This can happen through a variety of tactics, including psychological manipulation and gaslighting.
Parental alienation is a form of child abuse, and may cause irreparable harm to your relationship with a child. It’s important to watch for signs of parental alienation and take steps to prevent it from occurring in the first place. Here are five more keys to help prevent this from happening to you:
- Lawyer up! A competent and experienced attorney you can trust is invaluable to preventing parental alienation. From getting you the custody time you deserve so that you can maintain a healthy relationship with your children, to making sure you are awarded the resources you need to create a healthy home environment, the benefit of counsel cannot be overstated.
- Don’t go overboard trying to outdo your ex-spouse. Every visit doesn’t have to include a trip to Disneyland, the toy store, or the ice cream shop! This isn’t a sustainable way to parent, and its not the best way to gain lasting love and respect from your children. Trust that normal, nurturing love and care will be enough to build and maintain your relationship with your children.
- Be a source of warmth and positivity for your children. Save your venting and complaints for a therapist or a trusted friend. Don’t make your children perform emotional labor and comfort you- you are there to be a source of comfort for them. As much as possible, keep your language and attitude positive for your children.
- Don’t try to alienate your children from your ex-spouse! If you want to avoid parental alienation, dont become a source of alienation! It’s not just morally wrong, chances are it will backfire on you. Children are smart, and they might just see right through your attempt to alienate them from their other parent. Not to mention, if your ex-spouse and their legal counsel are able to demonstrate to the court that you have been engaged in parental alienation, you can expect for there to be legal consequences as well.
- Create happy memories with your children. Even a normal day has plenty of opportunities to create joyful memories shared with your children. Seize each day and you will create a beautiful relationship with your children that won’t be vulnerable to parental alienation.
What should I do if I believe my ex-spouse may be trying to alienate our children from me?
It is imperative that you seek legal counsel. You can also call our firm, which is very experienced in handling divorce cases where parental alienation (or accusations thereof) have occurred. John A. Bledsoe is Orange County’s premier divorce attorney and a certified family law specialist. Our firm offers a confidential initial case evaluation. Call (949) 363-5551 to learn more.
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