As a divorce lawyer, I have seen my fair share of challenging marriages. One of the most difficult situations to navigate is when one spouse is a liar. Being married to a liar can be incredibly damaging to one’s mental and emotional well-being, and it can be even more challenging when it comes to navigating the legal process of divorce.
Married to a Liar
“Mike” had been married to his wife, “Kathy”, for 7 years when he began to suspect that she was lying to him. He noticed that she would often come home late from work and when he asked her about her whereabouts, she would give vague or evasive answers. He also noticed that she had begun to keep secrets from him and was always on her phone or computer when he was around.
Mike knew that he needed to take action, so he decided to hire a divorce lawyer. His lawyer helped him gather evidence of Kathy’s lies, including text messages, emails, and financial transactions, including large unexpected withdrawals from their portfolio.
With the help of his lawyer, Mike was able to prove in court that Kathy had lied to him about a number of important issues, including her job and her extramarital affairs. The judge granted him the divorce, and he was also compensated for assets Kathy had tried to hide from him. By gathering evidence and presenting it in court, he was able to prove the dishonesty of his spouse and was awarded a fair settlement. It’s important to note that each case is different and the outcome may not be the same, but it’s always best to seek legal help if you suspect your spouse is lying.
Signs You Might Be Married to a Liar
- Inconsistencies in their stories: If your spouse’s stories change or have inconsistencies, it can be a sign that they are lying.
- Secrets: If your spouse is always keeping secrets, it can be a sign that they are hiding something.
- Avoiding eye contact: Liars often avoid making eye contact as it makes them uncomfortable and it may be a sign that they are hiding something.
- Defensive behavior: If your spouse becomes defensive or angry when confronted about their lies, it can be a sign that they are trying to cover something up.
- Being vague: If your spouse is vague about their activities or whereabouts, it can be a sign that they are lying.
- Being overly eager to please: Liars often try to make up for their lies by being overly eager to please.
- Aloofness: Liars may become aloof or distant, as it is easier to lie when they don’t have to keep up a facade of sincerity.
- Changing their behavior: Liars may change their behavior or routines to avoid getting caught in their lies.
- Unexpected financial changes: If you notice any unexpected financial changes, it can be a sign that your spouse is lying about their finances.
It’s important to remember that everyone has their own reasons for lying and sometimes, it’s not always possible to know if someone is lying. However, if you are noticing any of these signs in your marriage, it may be worth having a conversation with your spouse or seeking the guidance of a therapist or attorney.
In conclusion, being married to a liar can be a challenging situation to navigate, but it’s important to remember that you have options. Gathering evidence, seeking counseling, hiring an attorney, and being prepared for a difficult process can help you protect yourself and move forward with your life. It’s important to take the necessary steps to ensure that your rights are protected and that you are able to move forward with your life in a positive way.
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