With normal work, school, and family routines completely disrupted, the tactics that cheating spouses have normally used to hide their infidelity have been compromised. Cheaters are struggling more than ever to maintain the facade during the lockdown. Here are some signs of infidelity you might notice if your spouse is unfaithful. Some are obvious, and some are quite subtle.  

  1. Starting with the most obvious sign- they aren’t quarantined with you. This one is pretty much a slam dunk. If your spouse is making excuses about needing to be quarantined somewhere else it’s hard to imagine that everything is on the up and up. This sign of quarantine infidelity made headlines recently when movie star Bruce Willis somehow ended up in quarantine with his ex-wife Demi Moore instead of his current wife. It’s hard not to raise an eyebrow at a circumstance like that. Some people aren’t just cheaters, they hide entire second families and have had choose which one to stay with during the shelter in place orders! Short of a few truly extenuating circumstances that might not involve adultery, it’s probably time to move on.
  2. Neverending long “walks” or other activities alone outside (or out of earshot!). Of course, this could be entirely innocent. If you don’t have suspicions for another reason, this is hardly a reason to be wary of your spouse. But assuming that you have other justified reasons to suspect infidelity or you have a strong intuitive sense that somehow something is wrong, consider that this may be the time where they are talking, texting/sexting, or even flouting quarantine orders to meet up with their lover, exposing your family to unknown risk. Try suggesting you join them at the last moment and see how they react.
  3. Unexplained credit card charges, habitually staying up past bedtime to use the computer alone, and deleted browser histories. Men who were accustomed to visiting “massage parlors” and other places of ill repute may be trying to satisfy their lusts with camgirls, telephone sex, and other forms of sex for purchase online.
  4. Your intuition tells you something is going on. Our intuitive senses about other people should not be ignored. Our intuitive senses have evolved over millions of years to read the countless microsecond long facial expressions, voice inflections, body language cues, and other signs evident in our interactions with other people. If you are feeling like something is wrong, don’t just ignore it. You have every right to know if your spouse is keeping their promises to be faithful to you. And if you have a strong feeling that your spouse may be hiding something, you might very well be right.

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